“It’s my life. Don’t you forget it” – Talk Talk.
I’m selfish. I want “my things”, “my desires” done “my way” in “my time”. Not someone else’s “way” or “time”. Especially God’s. I’m the only one that matters. Not you. Me. It’s all about me. We can all identify. Selfishness is a byproduct of the fall.
I really became self(ish) aware when Lori and I got married. Now I had to take someone else into account. It wasn’t dating anymore. The Bible says stuff about “Iron sharpens iron”. “Dying to the flesh”. “Consider others better than yourselves”. It’s all true.
Then, I became more aware of my selfishness when we got a dog. Taking him outside, feeding, cleaning up after him … right in the middle of what I WANTED TO DO. Like watching football. Or playing video games. Or whatever.
But then my selfishness EXPLODED once the boys showed up. Holy crap. Feedings, changings, school, band, soccer, etc. I was dying on the inside, trying to get to the place where I could do what I wanted to do. Oh how I loved it when they finally fell asleep (still do, unfortunately). It’s my remote, now. My video games. My football. My life. Wait a sec, where’s Lori? Oh, she’s near the back of the line. Somewhere between Mario Kart and Call of Duty.
But now, I’m in a place where my selfishness is destroying me. A place where my selfishness has turned at times to a raging anger. How I battle at this unseen enemy. But there’s nothing I can do but swing at the air. “I want my daughter NOW, God!“, stamping my feet like a five-year old, “I want her here with ME. NOW!”.
And in my selfishness, I’m learning this time apart is nothing but a speck of sand on the eternal timeline. Maybe not even that much. I’m learning there’s a method to this madness. Somewhere. Right now, though, I can’t see it. And don’t want to, honestly. I’m working through that, though.
Thanks for reading.